http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2022/02/11/well/strengthen-relationships.html Ever wonder how, even as we are in later stages of a relationship, love and life can remain filled with a living and vital love? As I have aged I wonder if this will be my last relationship and if so, how can I make it and me feel better. Long term relationships can…
Category: Relationships
These Past Months
A month ago my son’s brother-in-law passed away unexpectedly from a fentanyl overdose. It has had a devastating impact on all of our families. He was a young man of means with so much to live for, both in opportunities and future success. Two years ago my son-in-;aw died in a motorcycle accident, and he…
Friendship While Quarantined
These months have passed quite slowly. For the longest time, I kept thinking I had stepped into another plane of the universe, as in the movie Contact. Perhaps if I looked closely enough I could find the wormhole to return to pre-March 14, 2020. What didn’t happened was actually a life-changing happening. The quarantine extended…
Grandparents on Call
Recently we received a call to ask, very gently, if we would be able to come to the west coast for a month or so to assist with our three-year-old grandson. The explanation was very simple and straightforward. Our son would be away for a work assignment for an extended period of time, perhaps a…
Death of a Child, No Matter the Age
My son-in-law, Simon, disappeared on August 9. While he and my daughter were divorced, he was the father of our very first grandchild and he remained always in our thoughts, if not in our lives that frequently. It has been an exasperating and frightening time as we all grappled with the why of his disappearance. …
King Lear’s Message: Aging and Children
Raising children, taking care of aging parents, continuing professional education, working in high-level administration of an agency…all have given way to retirement and relocation. Living at the beach has provided beautiful sunrises and sunsets best enjoyed with strong drink. My three children are successful professionals and I have two wonderful grandchildren, one on each coast.…
A Box of Photos
Sorting and reorganizing life has become a tireless goal filled with another box of souvenirs, envelope of pictures, or notes stuffed in folders. Maybe it is approaching a milestone birthday or maybe clutter in the back closet is finally too bothersome to move around and tidy up. The other day, wandering through piles of pictures…
Discipline and the Perplexed Grandparent
“Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.” Proverbs 13:24 When I was dealing with grandchildren under the age of two, I was knowledgeable, competent, and successful. Feeding, burping, diaper changing… all second hand to this mother of three children. Regrettably, I am humbled and disappointed in…
Who Am I?
Commenting on the current hearings in Congress is too political and too painful. But, the bigger question of who I am really is, of course, a long time philosophical epistemology beyond me and the moment. What is our personal notion of reality or viewpoint and experience, and how is our memory structured? The years since…
Particular
via Daily Prompt: Particular Growing up in an emotionally chaotic environment pushes many otherwise healthy children to develop coping skills, keeping the fears of adult explosive displays of temper boxed in a cylinder rolling through their lives but moving past as a fall leaf tumbling along the sidewalk. The path is available to walk leaving…
Life Gets Better 